Travel solo or buy more stuff?

What makes you happier? Possessions or experiences?  

I came across a blog post by someone who decided to fulfill his dream of living on a sailboat. He wrote four lessons on what he had learned from his experience.

Two resonated with me and will for most solo travelers: 

1. Life is about the experiences you have, not the possessions you own.

I wonder about this sometimes. When I return from a vacation that cost me, say, $1,500, I sometimes think, "That's over now. And what do I have to show for it?"

What I mean is with $1,500, I could have had a new computer with accessories that would last me years. Or a nice, new piece of furniture. Or who knows what else?

But travel is in a separate category of spending. A must-have category. My life would feel empty if I didn't go somewhere each year. I like things, but I like travel experiences more.

Other people feel differently. Some want to renovate their homes. Others want expensive new "toys," whether cars or boats or, I don't know, race horses. And will put off traveling.

If you're reading travel blogs like this one, you're likely in the "prefer experiences" category. (And aren't in the market for a horse any time soon.)

2. Manage your expectations.

The blogger also says that there are downsides to anything. True enough. I mainly write about the positives of solo travel. Probably because I don't focus on the negatives. If I did, I might never go.

Because yes, I might end up dining alone. No, I don't have anyone to watch my luggage while I make a quick trip to the restroom. And, yes, there might be some lonely times here and there.

But, as the blogger says, it's worth focusing on the positives. Because nothing is ever perfect.

Agreed.

Photo: Ellen Perlman. Felucca on the Nile

Comments

[Cynthia]

I like those lessons -- they do resonate. I work to keep expenses down at home in order to "buy life," because travel is so vital for me. As for managing expectations, that is always a good idea -- though I am generally delighted with just about everything. Also, I don't consider dining alone to always be a bad thing. It's often when I catch up on my writing or reading while on the road. However, you're absolutely right about having someone watching your luggage -- that can be a lifesaver. Oh, well. Won't keep me home. :)

[Ellen]

Cynthia,

I'd love to have your attitude: "generally delighted with just about everything." Fantastic!
I agree that dining alone can be very relaxing. Instead of gabbing away, one has time with one's thoughts. And to write or read.
Your comment about luggage reminds me that I'm going to write a post about how your luggage isn't necessarily safe even with someone you know watching it.

[Cynthia]

That sounds like it will be a good post. I'll look forward to reading it -- because it's getting trickier.